From meeting a prospective spouse to growing old with them, this course with noted marriage expert Ustadha Hedaya Hartford will cover all the essentials of a successful Islamic marriage. Examine the Sacred Law rulings and cover essential practical advice for maintaining happiness, good communication, good habits with the in-laws, and dealing with problems and destructive traits.
- Whether you are already married or looking to the future, learn the essentials of an Islamic marriage
- Benefit from noted marriage expert Ustadha Hedaya Harford’s practical advice and tips
- Understand the basic fiqh of marriage and divorce, breaking down common misconceptions
- Learn how to establish good communication
- Find ways of dealing with problems and conflict resolution
- Avoid destructive habits
- Set good habits with in-laws
About the Course
In the Successful Islamic Marriage, Ustadha Hedaya will cover all the essentials of a successful Islamic marriage through first explaining the basic fiqh of marriage and divorce, including common misconceptions. You will then learn about making the right choice before marriage, and what qualities to look for in a potential spouse. Last but not least, Ustadha Hedaya will spend a good portion the course giving tips on staying married, including establishing good communication, dealing with problems and destructive habits, being aware of potential triggers, and setting good habits with in-laws.
- Module 1: Islamic Character and Pre-Cursors to Marriage
- Islamic Akhlaq
- The Qur’anic and Hadith Sources
- The Definition of an Islamic Marriage
- Who Should Marry
- The Process of Looking for a Spouse
- Choosing a Spouse
- Leading up to the Marriage
- Module 2: The Fiqh of Marriage and Divorce
- Basic Fiqh of Marriage
- Basic Fiqh of Divorce and the different types of Divorce
- Words that effect Divorce
- The Marriage Contract
- Can a Woman Marry without a Guardian?
- Module 3: Psychological Factors and Staying Married
- Languages of love
- Arguing Styles
- Triggers and Dramas
- Coping Styles
- Victimhood and Nagging
- Giving and Taking Marital Advice
The course is taught using a combination of weekly live sessions, pre-recorded audio lessons, required reading material, personality questionnaires, quizzes, self-study drills, and office hours with Ustadha Hedaya Hartford. The pre-recorded audio and reading material for the week must be covered prior to attending the week’s live session.
Weekly Time Commitment
The course requires an estimated 3 to 5 hours per week outside the live session to listen to pre-recorded lectures do the required reading.
The required text for this course is Initiating and Upholding an Islamic Marriage by Hedaya Hartford, and Your Islamic Marriage Contract by Hedaya Hartford and Ashraf Muneeb. Ustadha Hedaya also provides an extensive recommended reading list as well as counseling and coaching contact resources. Students shall also read and listen to numerous articles over the duration of the course.
No background is required: all are welcome!
Who is this knowledge obligatory for?
This course is highly recommended for every Muslim, but is obligatory knowledge for anyone planning on getting married or already married – marriage is an act of worship, and as Muslims we must know the rights and obligations entailed by the marital contract. It is imperative as well to learn the fiqh of divorce to avoid potentially disastrous consequences born out of ignorance of the rulings!
Where’s the love in an Islamic marriage?
“Feel assured that in an Islamic marriage, love exists—not necessarily the idealized romantic love—and it grows each year as the result of experiencing each other’s beautiful Islamic behavior and manners,” writes Ustadha Hedaya Hartford in her book Initiating and Upholding an Islamic Marriage. So how do we go about nurturing the right environment for this love to grow? How do we choose someone with whom to spend the rest of your life? Once we have chosen someone, how do we ensure our interaction with them leads to a fulfilling, successful marriage based on the Prophetic example?
Why you’ll learn more about yourself…and your spouse…
The practical advice essentially boils down to understanding yourself and understanding how to handle conflict. Unfortunately, most of us today are deficient in this basic, common sense knowledge, which is why marriages in our times have become so fragile. The course shall introduce you to psychological tools and frameworks to better understand yourself and your spouse, your subconscious habits and defense mechanisms, and how to overcome them to preserve your marriage. The teacher of this course, Ustadha Hedaya, is a noted around the world for her Shariah expertise on marriage, divorce, and modern social issues, and has provided marital counseling to countless couples.
What shall I know coming out of the course?
Apart from the psychological insights, by the end of this course, you will realize the place of Islam in choosing a spouse and in cultivating your marriage. You will understand the basic fiqh of marriage and divorce. You will also learn about normal marriage problems and how they can go out of control and destroy a marriage. Internalizing the lessons learned in this course will help each of us get a step closer to becoming one of those described in the Prophetic hadith: “the best of you are the best to your spouses, and I am the best of you to my spouses.”